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So here's a question I put out there to my friends who have expertise with sexual health. (Or even just an opinion on the matter.)

A friend of mine is recently starting to become socially active, having become single a couple of years ago. He's already involved in a casual friends-with-benefits relationship, and there's something on his horizon that may be developing.

At some point, I recommended to him that as long as he's dating, he should get an STD test periodically. Particularly if he's going to be involved with more than one person at one time, I consider it an ethical responsibility. He agreed, and said that since he was already due for his annual physical, he'd ask them to run it at the same time.

Yesterday, he told me that he'd had that appointment, and that his doctor had refused to order the panel:

His rationale, insofar as I could read it, was "They aren't reliable past the first ten minutes after you have them, so wait until you have a stable partner and then get tested together.

To which I said: "You should fire your doctor. That's not only wrong, it's completely irresponsible."

This goes beyond my usual insistence that as the consumer, you have the right to have a say in setting your own health priorities. I'm flabbergasted that a doctor would, in 2012, tell a sexually active person that there's no point in getting STD screening as a preventing measure.

Am I overreacting, or is this utterly bizarre?

I'd be hestiant to generalise this to all people (or even any other people) with Asperger's , but it's certainly a fascinating look at one individual.

What it's like to have sex with someone with Asperger's | Penelope Trunk's Brazen Careerist

You think it would be really fun to have sex with me. Because, I think you can tell from my posts, I’ll do anything. But maybe you can also tell from my posts that it’s a little bit weird. Because you know that I’ll say anything, too, but sometimes, I make you cringe.

I think I’m that way in bed, too.

This post is about work. And sex, which are two of the essential areas of life one needs to be able to function in before you can feel like a normal adult. And both sex and work are governed by a set of rules that many people are able to learn just by being in the world.

So, who wants to go in with me on some pizza, hmm?

To Slide or to Slice? Finding a Positive Sexual Metaphor | Scarleteen:

Since the baseball metaphor has so many problems with it, Vernacchio created another metaphor that is much more holistic, inclusive... and tasty.

He suggests that instead of baseball, we get a template of sexuality from pizza.

Almost everyone likes pizza.
It's got little in common with baseball, but a whole lot in common with sex.

You don’t have to be young or popular or skilled in any way to be good at eating pizza. It’s a sensual experience, like sex, that most people enjoy. Eating pizza involves the same senses as sex—it’s a full body experience.

People eat pizza because they want to. As with sex, we have a hunger for pizza (“Let’s have pizza!”) and we eat it when we have that hunger. It has to do with personal anticipation and excitement, not someone else’s ideas about how or when we should or shouldn't eat pizza.

This was a random ED pharm spam, nothing to really distinguish itself from any of the other few that manage to slip past my defences. But the subject line of this one did catch me before I deleted it:

"How Can You Tell If Your Girl Is Satisfied (Sexually)?"

My immediate, somewhat bemused reaction: "Uh....she tells me?"

Seriously, maybe I've just been lucky with my partners, but it's not that hard to tell that you've done a good job. Especially if your partner is someone you, y'know, have conversations with that feature polysyllabic words.

Thanks to natatattat for this:



I kinda like it.  Go pomo.

Joel Johnson gives some frank and compelling advice on sex with an unusual perspective

My lover and I enjoy role-play, but I’ve gotten tired of the same cliché scenarios like student/teacher and boss/secretary. Any recommendations for new roles that might help spice it up

I don’t know what system you’re playing, but “student/teacher” and “boss/secretary” do not sound like choices that would inspire one to role-playing greatness. Consider a classic like “cleric of the watcher from the depths/virgin” or “half-orc paladin/gelatinous cube.” And remember, silken rope may be more expensive, but it’s nearly half the weight in encumbrance.

I’ve been dating someone really great for a few months, but he’s never referred to me as his girlfriend. How do I take it to another Level?

While the obvious answer is “Accomplish a story task in the boyfriend track for XP equal or greater to your next level threshold,” I get the feeling you might be hinting that you want to descend into the fetid labyrinth that festers beneath his ancient wizard’s tower. In that case the stairs are in quadrant M23, behind the Throne of the Kobold Hetman.

Read the rest here.

fairestcat points towards a primer on having sex on a motorcycle, which is aimed at fanfic writers, but really isn't this good information for all of us to have?

This post contains TMI of an adult nature and, while it contains only text, may nonetheless be non-worksafe if your workplace is really, really uptight.

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One of the things that kitanzi got me for Valentine's Day was some magnetic poetry sets. We had picked up a special set from Dragon*Con a couple of years ago that had a limited set of fannish words, but we'd never gotten the base sets in order to have enough words to really play with. So they sat unused on the fridge for a long while.

To the fannish set, we've now added the Original set and the Erotic set, allowing for all manner of naughty thoughts to be formed. And after aiela put the idea in my head, we relocated all the magnets to the back of the front door, in order to have space to work.

It's kind of fun to just scan over the words and see which ones your brain wants to put together. Almost Zen in practice...

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